7 steps to a successful Twin Flame relationship

Twin Flame relationships are forms of relationships that differ from the soulmate ones. To have a successful relationship of that kind, you would need to adhere to a completely different set of “rules” you are used to. Our planet called for a higher form of love- it called to have a vibration of Heaven on Earth. That is why most Twin Flames are still learning to love one another unconditionally. In a soulmate relationship, when you give something to your partner, you expect the same in return, which is not how Twin Flames function. 

In order to better understand Twin Flame connections, here are the 7 steps you would need to learn to have a successful Twin Flame relationship:

Put God (Love, Source, Universe) first.

This step is essential because when you pay attention only to your Twin Flame in its physical form, it could repel them from being with you.

When you obsess over a certain person and only want to spend time with them, you lose focus on what matters. Love or God should always have the first place in your heart. Don’t idolize your Twin Flame or put them on a pedestal- they are equal to you. When you idealize or idolize them, you see them improperly- as someone better than you are. That creates an unnecessary feeling of separation when in truth you are one.

2. Love yourself

The biggest lesson you must master on this journey is- to love yourself unconditionally. Why is this so important?- Because most of us don’t listen to our own needs, we betray or belittle ourselves, don’t believe in ourselves, don’t like how we look… Lots of this stems from the wounds we did not heal or process throughout our lives. In learning to love yourself, you learn how to accept yourself and realize you are already perfect just as you are. Many of us did not have parents or different role models who could have taught us how to accept and love ourselves.

3. Accept growth

Another important point is that for a successful Twin Flame journey, you would have to grow a lot. By growing, it means, you would have to let go of the beliefs, thoughts, feelings, or people that are no longer serving you. You would need to peel off layers that are preventing you from being your true self. This can be hard for someone comfortable in staying where they are emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or even physically. 

4. Heal yourself from the past traumas

Many people enter relationships or marriages when they are still experiencing the effects of former traumas. When this happens, it does not take much for your Twin Flame to trigger you. They would trigger your trauma response and you would lash out at them. Your Twin Flame can’t heal your traumas for you or instead of you. I know it seems unfair, but that is your job. Often when we have traumas, we are not even aware of them. That is why it is important to go through a trauma-healing modality that suits you.

5. Don’t expect everyone around you is going to understand your journey

Many people are awakening to true love, but most are not actively on their Twin Flame journeys. Therefore, it would sometimes be wise not to overshare your journey with people who might not understand what you are going through. Instead, find people who are having similar experiences and learn from them. For example, I received a prophecy regarding my future marriage with my Twin Flame and shared it mostly with people I knew would understand and support it. However, there were a few times when people could not really grasp my story and that felt bad. 

6. See your Twin Flame as your mirror

You and your Twin Flame share one consciousness. If they are upsetting you, they are only showing you your own misaligned beliefs. Try to see them as your perfect mirror instead of blaming them for their behavior. Of course, that does not mean you would put up with any form of abuse. (In a case of abuse, assert boundaries). 

For example, if your Twin Flame is avoiding you in any way, the mirror will show you how there is a part of yourself that avoided you sometime in your life. When you become aware of the feelings associated with it, you simply heal it.

7.  Seek help from a professional like a Twin Flame coach

I would suggest you not to navigate this path without proper guidance. Most people believe they know everything about relationships, but that would only be the case if most of the relationships in our society were healthy. (When in fact they aren’t). Spare yourself from getting into a toxic or abusive relationship or going through a divorce by investing in help early in your journey. I have personally received lots and lots of support like CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), trauma healing, health and wellness healing, twin flame coaching, clerical help, psychiatric help, and family support. The moral of the story is: you don’t need to find the answers all by yourself- claim your support!

Luckily, you are just at the right place when it comes to finding support, as I am a Twin Flame coach.

If you resonate with me, reach out, so I can help you.

Best,

Marta